a visit to the past... and looking ahead
We drove by our old house this weekend. It wasn't like I expected.... or maybe it was. It looked like someone else's home. Which it is. They had chairs on the front porch, patio furniture out back. The flowerbeds hadn't changed much, I think they must have pulled out the yellow rose bush, but they certainly had not added any bushes or shrubs. The butterfly bush has quadrupled in size, and the yellow spring-blooming shrub whose name eludes me even though they are out in full force was also taller. Forsythia. It looked lived in, cared for enough. Perhaps because we've finally moved on, moved into OUR new home, perhaps because 6 years is a relatively short time to live somewhere, I did not want it back. Did I want to see my friends from the neighborhood more often? You bet. In fact, we had a miscommunication, our dear friends thought we were staying with them when we had not planned to, so we cancelled our reservation and DID stay with them. Except for the onset of my allergies, the visit was wonderful. Dinner at one of the nearby restaurants (I think the food at Las Palmas on Nolensville Rd. has improved, it was more flavorful than I remember), the girls dressed up, the boy chased the girls, played with tinker toys, and squealed at the cats in the backyard. This time followed a birthday party for another sweet friend, so the whole day was just that... sweet. Driving back home on Sunday, in between my hacking and sniffling that prevented us from visiting our old church and seeing more friends, we loved that it took less than 3 hours, more like 2 1/2 from our old house to new house. So maybe our friends can come visit us here more often, too.
I think Bear remembered the neighborhood once she saw it. I am not sure if the walk home from the restaurant with her friends and the Daddies jogged her memory further. But she was so glad to play with her friends again. And I was so glad to sit on the couch with a crochet project while my friend knitted. (We must be getting old.) Buddy loved our friends' cats and their Bradford Pear tree in full bloom (hence my allergies). Both kids loved their carpet, and Bear proclaimed that we only have hard floors in our new house. (Which is true, except for an area rug in the family room and occasional throw rugs.)
I remember how excited and anxious we were to buy our first home. It was newly built, we got to pick out the fixtures from the builder's spec model, choose upgrades as we desired or could afford. (There were not too many, thankfully they included more than other builders at the time, like a fireplace which we rarely used and 4 ft wide shower in the master bath). The yard... tiny. Steep. Remember the posts about the cliff where the developer cut away? Well, it hasn't gotten any flatter.
The mortgage... ah... we paid extra on it while I worked, before we had kids. In spite of the dropping market, we had an offer within 4 weeks of putting it on the market in '09. An offer that did not fall through.
I look back at the hand of Providence, how God has provided for us since we were married, and I am just thankful. We did not do anything to earn or deserve such favor... before the house, there was the 2 bedroom apartment on a pretty hill. Before THAT, we lived with Hubby's parents, and they became my friends and mentors in a way that few get blessed with.
And now. Here we are. The kids call it the "big, big house." Which it is. Bigger than I ever dreamed or expected. With some amenities I would trade in a heartbeat. Well just one. I prefer to walk barefoot on carpet, now I have to wear my socks all the time. But the bright side is the hardwood is better on allergies and easier to clean when your 2 year old pees on it. We have new neighbors to get to know, though they will not replace our old friends, they will be added to the list of people God has placed in our lives "for such a time as this" (whatever "this" entails). This home has a history, it was someone else's, it has some quirks, but also a lot of character. We did not get to choose every detail, but someone, 18 years ago chose a lot of special touches for themselves, and then they did their best to get it ready for us when it was time to say goodbye.
Little Man probably won't remember the first house he lived in, or the apartment, and his Big Sis might not, either. However, I am pretty sure they will make some memories in our new home.